The Lost Generation

March 19, 2014

DiShawn S. 

People have so much to say about the teens of today. They say we're out of control. They say we're irresponsible and don't care about anything. Many people refer to us as the "lost generation" but do you see those same people try to help us? I'll answer for you. No, they would rather talk about us and watch us as we walk down the wrong path. 

I believe your teenage years are the most important years of your life. During this time you not only discover what you want to be in the future, you discover who you really are. As teens sure we have fun. Whether it's going to parties, or just chilling at home talking on the phone for five hours! But being a teen isn't all fun and games. We live in a world where we deal with conflicts every day. 

One of the biggest problems we are faced with is our weight. I'm so tired of picking up a magazine and seeing some super skinny girl on the front cover that looks like they're anorexic. Then being told, "This is how you should look." It makes us feel that if we don't look like that we're fat and ugly. What happened to the saying "Real women have curves?"

Another big problem that teens face today is being pressured to have sex. It seems that if you haven't been sexually involved by the time you're in high school that something must be wrong with you. If you're a male you'll be considered as a P.I.M.P. but he tables turn if you're female. You'll be called a whore or a slut. You'll be surprised to know that there is only a hand full of virgins at my middle school! I wear my virginity with honor because it shows I have respect for myself. 

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and my friends look at me funny when I tell them that we never had sex. I told them just because I love him doesn't mean we have to have sex. That's where a lot of girls get confused. Their boyfriend ells them "if you love me, you'll have sex with me." I asked my boyfriend why he never told me that and he responded in a way that I will never forget. "Love is not something that can be proven. It is a strong feeling you feel deep inside your heart and soul." Tears of happiness as well as thankfulness fell from my eyes because i had a boyfriend who had so much respect for my body and me. I only wish other girls could have the same and realized that sex isn't love. That's why there are girls walking around my school with big bellies now and believe me it's not because they're fat! We're just creating a cycle of unknowing children who don't know what they're doing until it's too late. This leads to the biggest problem teens face today, ignorance. 

Now, before you think I'm disrespecting my own people, let me explain. I'm not calling teens stupid, I'm just saying they lack knowledge about many things. Many teens don't know what their future holds. 

We need to come together to solve these problems. We as teens are at a very difficult stage in our lives of not being kids anymore, but still needing help with a lot of things because we're not e adults. I commend organizations like Y.O.U.T.H. who try to inform us what's out there. We need more programs like this. We as America need to adopt the African proverb "it takes a village to raise a child" because it truly does. We need to work together to help teens of today deal with their problems so we don't become the "lost generation" of tomorrow. 
 

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